In December 2019, Women Advance will be rerunning some of our favorite stories during the year. There are too many amazing stories to highlight, but some definitely deserve another read.
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center reports that 34% of people who sexually abuse a child are family members of the child. Add to this statistic step relatives or family friends that harm children. In addition, there are the occurrences of inappropriate sexual encounters between an adult and child. And finally, add the myriads of people that experienced these sorts of encounters or abuse and never disclosed it.
My sister had to make hard choices. Being extra careful about who is allowed to be around her child alone. Having to make hard decisions related to which family members were able to be involved her son’s life. The reality of those choices included having to call out of work when the babysitter couldn’t come, instead of going to work and allowing just anyone to watch him.
To all the moms that take the extra steps to end the cycle of trauma, on this Mothers Day, I say THANK YOU. You’ve recognized that you don’t want your offspring to have to heal themselves as adults from the emotional, physical or sexual abuse of their childhoods. You are a beacon of light, and someone to look up to.
Ericka Faircloth (Nicki) originates from Scotland/Robeson Counties, and received her undergrad degree in International and Global Studies from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She has taught the English language abroad in Amman, Jordan, and in recent years has worked alongside her people to protect their ancestral lands, as well as pushing unification amongst all people. In her spare time she enjoys videography, studying spiritual teachings, and connecting with the spiritual realm. Ericka lives in Raleigh with her husband, Fares, and their dog Charro.
Originally published May 13, 2019